Being a little self-critical is a great way to push yourself into being a better person. Maybe you want to do your job better. Or you want to help your community. Possibly you want to yell less at your kids. When you critique yourself, you have the ability to make changes. But, can it go too far…?
If you use self-criticism to doubt your abilities, this is now counter-productive. It’s one thing to say I want to improve and then find ways to do it. It’s another thing when you infuse negativity about your abilities.
It is important to use that inner voice to help you achieve success, however you define it. But there are times where you need to learn how to silence that inner critic and tell it to shut the f&#% up!
The person you have become took years to get there. If you need to make changes from within, focus on the parts of your life that are holding you back. Use these as the starting point for your change. Everything you have done or accomplished in your life can’t be wrong. You wouldn’t be where you are if that was true.
When you need to silence your inner critic, you need positive reinforcement for yourself. These are affirmations. These affirmations help push you through the negativity and help you come to the realization that you have positive qualities.
The key is to repeat these affirmations, so they become a natural part of your life. Create a journal and record the times when you are feeling like you are putting yourself down. Go back to the journal at a later time to review and make this as part of your regular routine.
I write in my journal every morning for 10 minutes writing out my affirmations and my “dream” life as it has already happened.
Telling your inner critic to shut the f&#% up takes practice, but the rewards are so worth it. You increase your self-esteem and have a better outlook on life.
You will achieve more when you keep this positive focus than by constantly bringing yourself down.
If that voice inside is not helping you, get rid of it. -Liz Lima