Have you tried something new in your life, a new diet, a gym routine, being more positive, anything and noticed negativity surrounding your pursuits? Unfortunately, being critical and having critical reactions is part of human nature, and there are a lot of motivators that push people to find faults in others. These kinds of actions can be hurtful and can throw you off course when you're working toward a goal. It's important for you to take some time to think about these types of encounters and what you can do about them so that you're able to move forward to success, rather than let the @ssh0ls win. Here are five tips for dealing with “critics” as you chase your dreams.
Accept the Criticism
First, expect someone will eventually try to put you down for what you're doing or will criticize the way you're doing it. It's simply part of human nature. What motivates that person to throw their negativity your way isn't important. The first thing you need to realize is that their judgment isn't personal. There is a world of reasons behind it. None of which have anything to do with you. Some people are simply critical, and we're better off when we accept that.
Use Their Words to Motivate You
But that doesn't mean that we have to accept the words as true or to believe that it's okay for anyone to treat us badly. It's not. Remember you can’t control their actions, but you can control your actions. So, your next step is to decide to use those negative words and detractions for good. Use them to motivate you and to move you forward. Don't let someone's opinion sway you in another direction. You determine their words to be unworthy of your attention. Conquer your “resolutions”, knowing you will prove them wrong.
Consider the Source
It's also wise to know that sometimes criticism can have a grain of truth. Some people may have valid reasons to criticize your actions or your approach. Maybe they have been through what you are attempting and are not great with delivering constructive criticism. Perhaps they're not judging you as a person or trying to tear you down at all. Take some time and consider who is giving you this review and whether their motivations could be based on truth and positive intent.
Find the Positive Takeaway
If you feel that someone is being critical of your desires for a good and valid reason, take time to try to figure out what you can take from that. Ask them why they're giving you this advice. Truly listen to them without being defensive to see what it is you can learn from their words. It is possible that this criticism is constructive and can be used to improve your path. Take that kind and run with it.
Finally, sometimes people deal out criticism because they're negative people who are either jealous, scared, resentful or angry. Those are the haters and you don't have time for them. There's really nothing you can do about them but to ignore them and move on. Your life will be better for taking that step.
Have Some Compassion for Them
But what I want you to understand the most is that the ones that are being critical about your actions and desires are that they themselves are hurt. I mentioned it above that they are possibly jealous, scared, resentful or angry. Having some compassion will help you to understand that their reaction is not about you, it's about them.
I hope these tips for dealing with your critics will help you to continue toward achieving your “resolutions” with a positive mindset. It can be hard enough to overcome our own negative voice. Don't let the criticism of others stand in the way of your success.