I talked a lot in this challenge about how to stay on track with your “resolutions”. There are a lot of tricks and strategies for pushing past resistance, overcoming obstacles and finding that motivation you need to succeed! We are nearing the end of our time together. I'd like to address some things not to do as you pursue your goals. These are some of the most common reasons people fail in trying to reach their goals. Watch out for these “resolution” pitfalls and you will greatly increase your chances of success.
It's so easy to put your flaws and weaknesses in the front of your mind when you’re looking to make lifestyle changes. That makes sense. There's something we don't like about ourselves or that we feel needs improvement, so we make a resolution to change it. But, a change in your perspective can make reaching your goal a lot less painful! For example, instead of saying, "I'm lazy and waste too much time,” try telling yourself, "I haven't found my passion yet and am ready to do some exploring." The messages we tell yourself tend to lead our actions!
Fads come and go. It's easy to on the bandwagon or to feel like you should be doing what everyone else is doing. That's why so many of us tend to make “resolutions” we don't find meaningful. Deciding to follow a goal that feels like something you "should" do because others are doing it is being inauthentic to yourself and your core values. It will only lead you to become dissatisfied or frustrated along the way to your destination.
Quest for Perfection
A killer of “resolutions” lies in trying to be perfect. We're all flawed. We're bound to mess up. This is particularly true when attempting something new or out of your comfort zone. Give yourself some space when going after your goals. Expecting perfection is self-sabotaging and leads to an unfulfilled dream.
Loss of Excitement
At the beginning, the excitement and newness of your resolution are enough to carry you. Later, you find yourself getting too comfortable or finding that things have become routine. When this happens, it's easy to slide back into old habits because you're not paying as much attention to your actions or you lose focus. Finding a supportive cheerleader, get in the Venus Warriors Tribe, write yourself visual reminders or other similar action can be the motivation you need to get past the slump.
There are other pitfalls I've mentioned in past posts such as trying to go it alone, not being specific in your goal-setting or failing to measure your progress. I wanted to share some lesser-known issues that can sneak up and sabotage your success. Now that you're aware, it will be easier to avoid them.