Tips For Recognizing Your Inner Critic
I’m going to expand upon the idea that was introduced previously, which is how to recognize your inner critic. After all, if you don’t know when this mean internal voice is sabotaging you, how can you fight it? While everyone’s critic is different, there are some commonalities you can observe to give you the heads up that you may be telling yourself some bs things that aren’t true. Be aware of these patterns in order to recognize your inner critic.
Your inner critic definitely isn’t nice. Thank you Captain Obvious. But, this voice tends to go beyond just being unkind. It can be downright mean. Mean Girls, anyone? When you notice you’re having thoughts that are harsh, take note. It’s probably your inner critic. It’s okay to give yourself some constructive criticism and strive to do better, but this type of critical message isn’t the productive and encouraging kind. It’s meant to bring you down and hold you back. Don’t listen to it!
Your inner critic is also fantastic at comparing your abilities, possessions, and life to other people. These comparisons are not fair or right. They always tell you that someone else is better than you or that you’ll never measure up. These messages don’t do anything to serve you and should be ignored. Your only competition is yourself.
As I mentioned previously, that mean inner voice usually says the same thing over and over. When you find yourself agonizing over past events, again and again, find a way to interrupt those thoughts ASAP! Tell yourself to stop! Take a break and look at things more realistically. Your inner critic repeats these damaging messages as a way of sabotaging you. The more you tell yourself these words, the more you are to believe them. This is definitely a case for reframing a negative message to a more realistic and positive one.
Not in Your Best Interests
Finally, it’s important I stress once more that your inner critic is not speaking up for your best interests. It’s not a tool that works to help you do better. The word “critic” is in the name. You wouldn’t be critical of a friend if you wanted to encourage or lift them up. Be gentler with yourself. Shutting up your inner critic is an act of self-love and empowerment! There are way better ways to push yourself to achieve.
Keep these things in mind when it comes to identifying the mean voice that lives inside your head. These tips for recognizing your inner critic will serve you well as you follow this journey of becoming stronger and more in charge of your thoughts.