Don’t Let Your Inner Critic Go into Comparison
Your inner critic can be fueled by several sources, both internal and external. Such negativity doesn’t need much of a spark in order to rage out of control. Comparison to others is one trigger that can cause insecurity and negativity to spiral out of control. Do you go into the comparison game? Looking outside yourself can be a source of motivation if it’s done in a good healthy way. Unfortunately, way too many of us compare ourselves to others, causing pointless pain. Here are some ways to stop letting your inner critic compare yourself to others.
Focus on Your Strengths
There are a few things you can do when you notice you’ve fallen into a slump of feeling bad about yourself because you’re not as “good”, “talented”, or “worthy” as someone else. First of all, recognize that we all have different strengths and limits. Focus on your strengths and remind yourself that you possess talents and characteristics your “friend” may not.
It’s not fair to compare yourself to someone who may have an advantage over you in either education, experience, or skill. We don’t all start at the same place in life. Instead of comparing yourself to someone whose backstory you may not know, why not take a second and be grateful for what you do have. Voicing gratitude can be one of the quickest ways to kick self-criticism in the @ss.
Social media makes it so easy to compare yourself to complete strangers! The majority of people show all the “good” and none of the bad. (But trust me there are people that all the show is the bad…). All of us are creating a picture of our lives that we want others to see. Recognize that you probably aren’t seeing the whole picture. Why compare yourself to someone who may have things worse than you do in the world outside of social media. Unfollow anyone whose posts cause you to feel your life isn’t up to par.
Instead of using comparison to tear yourself down, why not use it as a source of motivation? If someone has something in life you wish you could achieve, plan how you can reach that achievement. Using comparison to motivate yourself can be productive. Try not to spend your precious energy on negative comparisons.