Get a Second Opinion About Those Critical Thoughts
Your inner critic gains a great deal of its strength because it's internal. These are the messages you’re giving yourself, and sometimes (ok most of the time) your view is skewed. It's hard to see the best in ourselves, especially when our negative self-talk doesn't ever seem to let up.
That's when it’s time to get a second opinion. Someone you trust completely who has known you for some time is usually a great source for realistic feedback. People from your inner circle will usually be upfront about your strengths and your limits.
Don’t allow critical thought to marinate in your mind. You will most likely run in circles or create worry for something that may never happen. The issue at the source of your self-criticism won't be solved if there even is a real issue, to begin with! Sharing your concerns or thoughts will help in multiple ways.
Saying your thoughts out loud may help you realize it isn't a valid concern. Receiving feedback from a trusted friend may help you put the situation in perspective. Getting support and talking it out may show you that you were being way too harsh on yourself and expose the inner thought for what it really was – your inner critic messing with you.
Talk with a Friend or Family Member
If your critical thoughts are revolving around your personal life, you could talk to a friend you trust, a parent, or a sibling. Someone you are comfortable with and someone whose opinion you respect. It can be good to get an outside perspective if they are sincere, loving, and respectful.
Talk with a Coworker, Partner, or Mentor
If your inner critic is hounding you about your work life, you may decide to confide in a business bestie or a close coworker. Again, this person should be someone who is open, respectful, and honest with you. Make sure it is someone you trust with your thoughts and feelings. Depending on what your inner critic is telling you, you may want to chat with your boss or clients to get feedback from them. That feedback can help you realize you are on the right track and can silence the self-doubt and internal criticisms.
Talk with a Life Coach
Sometimes it isn't a bad idea to seek professional help. If you are not finding closure by speaking with friends, family, or work buddies, you may decide to speak with a coach. That may help you resolve your internal conflict and deal with your inner critic.
Remember, don't give your inner critical thoughts more power by allowing them to stay internal, swirling around your mind wreaking havoc. Make sure you get it out in the open or seek feedback from a trusted friend, family member, or coach.