Episode #33 - Personal Growth With Style- Liz Lima - Blog Post

Personal Growth With Style – Carrie Montgomery


In today’s blog post, I am with Carrie, who came all the way from Spain and who teach women embodiment through embodied positive activity. Carrie specializes in helping women see the best versions of themselves through proper poise, clothing and generally how one carries herself in a crowd of people. Finding that identity, healing transformation and personal growth with style.

Every day is a roller coaster of emotions and a war between positive and negative thoughts. That is why it is essential to figure out how to handle this negativity and block them, to inspire positive growth and body image. The process that Carrie teaches is a body image breakthrough, where she helps women create their own soul style with their body. It’s not just about how to dress in a literal sense but extends beyond the consciousness of a woman.  Carrie also shared her story of personal growth with style in this podcast, back when she was a young lady who suffered from a major spine problem that needed reconstruction to a grown woman with poise and positivity. The journey has not been easy, but it made her the best woman for herself and for the people around her. It won’t be for you too, but it will be worth it because you will find a better version of you.

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Mirroring what you feel inside and letting it out into the world is a manifestation of how much and how long you’ve acquainted yourself with your personal growth and style. Sending out clarity and positivity will echo back in ways we never imagined possible. These echoes reverberate to us back in more positive waves and clarity to help us understand ourselves more and move forward in our personal growth with style.

To know more about Carrie, you can visit her website here, https://www.carriemontgomery.com. You can also check here mediation page by clicking this link, https://carriemontgomery.lpages.co.

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Liz:

Hi Venus warriors. Thank you so much for being here on our Friday episodes, which you know is all about interviewing other women who I feel are Venus Warriors because of everything that they've gone through in their lives and that they've achieved. And they've gone after what they felt was either their passion, their purpose, or they were just done with whatever they were at. But they've gone through something and they've now achieved more in their life than they've had. And I have these, so you see that there are other women out there just like you who are able to go after what they want and achieve whatever it is they want. So today I have the amazing Carrie, how are you?

Carrie:

Hello thank you so much.

Liz:

Thank you so much for being here and I'm so honored because you're like in this amazing island all the way out in Spain, which I'm super jealous folks. So if you don't mind, could you please tell our listeners, you know what it is you do now, like what's your business and how you're helping people?

Carrie:

Yeah. So I help women get embodied through addressing method. I teach women to get dressed on a daily basis, but I teach them embodiment, body image. So not just body positivity, but embodied positive activity. And then I teach them identity. And really I teach them to overcome how they feel like the obstacles that they're coming up against in their body that are blocking them from their future success and how to move through that so that they can protect themselves into their lives and really be that pillar of success that they're desiring to be.

Liz:

Okay. So you're saying embodied, is that what you're saying? Can you, maybe go into that a little bit more? Like define that or describe that.

Carrie:

Yeah, for sure. So we have like, you know, let's just think like positive thoughts. Positive thoughts are great, but when we have negative thoughts coming in, it can be really hard to get on the positive track, right? So all of a sudden we're like, I feel like shit, I'm fat, I'm ugly, I'm worthless. And then we have like, oh, but I'm great. I'm going to do great things. And they're so opposed that it feels like you're climbing up a hill, that you keep sliding down and you're getting scarred every way. Like you're getting cut up, you look like gravel in your knees and you're like, this is brutal. So the process that I teach when we go through the body image breakthrough and really get into the body and create your soul style, my signature program is I teach them how to go in and just witness what's happening in their energy, what's happening, where their emotions are in their body.

Carrie:

So we neutralize the sensation so that the mind doesn't, you know, take over and like Trumbull them down. I suffered from this for years. I had successful career then major crash, then successful career and then major crash. And I was like, I can't get this, like law of attraction, be positive Louise. Hey, just think positive thoughts, affirmations. I was like, I can't get this cause I'm sabotaging myself all the time. So I wanted to find a solution. And when I use the principles of understanding my energy, knowing my emotions and what's happening with my emotions at any given moment so I can identify what is present and then knowing my core story. So how my story interacts with my body and then that means that I can be really present with my growth process and stay engaged and embody it so I can take the necessary steps forward to break through the block that's holding me back.

Liz:

Okay. Totally relate with the I'm ugly. I'm fat stuff. Cause that was totally me, like really bad.

Carrie:

That happens to a lot of us.

Liz:

Oh my God. Like way back in Grad school. Like it was stupid. Okay. Anyways. So I get that. And, and you're right. And I love the, I love what you're saying where you're like, yeah, so I'm all this crap when I'm so great. Right?

Carrie:

It's just super good. It's gonna be good. It's going to be amazing. It's like, nope, not, it's like a hellhole.

Liz:

Yeah, exactly. I know. And my mind is like, you are full of Shit. What do you, yeah

Carrie:

Someone's in there like backtalk to you and you're like, who does that?

Liz:

Oh my God. Okay. So, clearly, because you've kind of touched upon it really, really quickly that, you know, we go through some type of struggle, right? We get these wounds and then when we heal them, we can help others. So, you've said it twice that you had successful career, massive crash. So do you mind going into that a little?

Carrie:

Yeah, totally. So I have, I, I've had a crazy health journey for most of my life, but the past 24 years it's been pretty intense. And I've done well. Like my body's been good. And then like, I'll go in a major meltdown with my immune system. And it started when I was like 18. I had, I broke my back and I had a major spinal reconstruction surgery. So then that threw off my hormonal system, which then gave me fibroids and tumors and surgeries. So 13 surgeries later, 2020 years later to losing my uterus. Like, wait, why are we like, what, how am I, I'm a woman, I'm supposed to like procreate.

Carrie:

What's happening? I can't now. And I had consciously left New York City, it'd be like, well, maybe I should just move to Maine and have a family. Like I'm going to stop being going up from my like career ambitions. And then a year later I'm like, oh my God, I, I'm a baby. What's wrong? And, and I couldn't even like keep loving my life, right. But my career, so I was a film maker. I, lived in Los Angeles in New Mexico. I ran the film union for the State of New Mexico would bring in, features from, you know, mostly from Los Angeles, but from all the world, we are really trying to bring those runaway productions back from Canada that, you know, they were doing great tax rebates. So we created a whole system there. And so I was working with like Ron Howard, like so many of me like Val Kilmer, Cate Blanchett, you name it, like so many amazing, amazing people.

Carrie:

But the hours were kind of crazy, you know, onset, like really unstable hours and then filling in like I, you know, when her offset, then I'm like filling in with income and doing teaching Clabby's and running a restaurant and doing all these different things. So I'm like workhorse right in my twenties and I'm like, you know what, I'm just going to move to New York City cause I feel like that's my like gateway to get back on track. And I was born in New York, so I'm like native New Yorker lived in, grew up in England though. So I'm like, okay, I'm just going to go back and I want to do like East Coast New York, can I get there? And within six months I am bedridden and I cannot walk. And I literally have to call my parents. So I was teaching "" at 6:00 AM in the morning going to work for a director during the day and then teaching "" after and then taking a class, an acting class.

Carrie:

Like completely unsustainable schedule. But I was like, it's cool, I'm young. Like I got this. And then I couldn't walk and I had to call my parents and say, Hey, I need you to come pick me up because I cannot stand up. And if it was something had triggered my back and then there was a whole like let's triage the back thing. So that took me a good like 18 months to recover from. So I learned like I can't overdo it. I have to find the right career so that my body will be in balance. So as I was doing that, like 18 months in Maine with my family. Doing like physio therapy, getting my body back in shape and I was like, okay, like I'm going to go back to New York, like I'm going to do this. And literally like, so it was February and I was planning to move in May and I got into it, I total the car and so then I was like in the hospital like I was, it was a mess.

Carrie:

Like it was just an absolute mess. But there was something really interesting about it was it was a snow storm and I was on my way to the gym, the gym was 30 minutes away from my home and I was going down the back road and I like kind of slid on the car and I was like, oh, I wonder what happens to the car? Like if I total it, like how does, like what does an insurance company do when you total a car? Like I have no idea. Right? Like so crazy. So I go to the gym and I'm like, that don't matter that Dah Dah, Dah. Like, yeah, yeah, yeah. It's now like snowing so hard when I get out. And so I take another road home that's like more of a main road and I got life at the wheel and I tapped the brakes on a turn and I spun out and flipped the car three times and total it.

Carrie:

And I was like, it took me a few days to admit the thought that I had had like an hour prior or two hours prior to be like, whoa, intention, thoughts, action, like manifestation. Holy Cow. And my dad goes, well you were kind of upside down on the car payments, so it's great you got out of the car payments. I was like, this is insane. This is not a good way to run my life. Like this is life threatening. But they'd also found a necrotic tumor. So I was in the hospital for two weeks. I'm trying to birth a tumor and they couldn't figure out why I was in so much pain and I was hemorrhaging. But like they did and they couldn't understand. This is Nikita, my little love bug. So you know, I mean, so I've had like one medical crisis after another, right. And it's just like layer of like, okay, we're going to go, we're going to set on a mission and then my body's like, no, we're not.

Carrie:

And so then I have to be like, okay, well what are we gonna do? Like how are we going to heal ourselves? What are we gonna focus on? So I, you know, I spent a lot of my life and in those Nikita, come on, I love you. I spent a lot of the downtime in my life. Working on healing past traumas and childhood traumas and things that you know, would block me from my future success. And so I've done a million different therapies and a million different ceremonies and you know, shamanic retreats and everything that I can do to like exercise the demons in my body because you know, innately thinking like I'm a bad person but I'm actually not. I'm like this really beautiful being that went through a really hard time is now trying to come free of it. So fast forward, I mean, I created a great sales career.

Carrie:

I was really awesome. I ended up in Hawaii selling Ritz Carlton resort real estate for a launch real estate company, sold 176 million in one day. It was awesome. And, and then I was diagnosed with Lyme disease. And I was in like full and I on the island of Hawaii, like having crazy like crazy stuff happening to my body and

Liz:

That's what my thesis is on. I'm going to totally interrupt you right here. Lyme disease is what I studied in Grad school anyways.

Carrie:

No. Oh my God, we got to talk offline about this one. Wow. Yeah. Okay. So I don't typically talk about it publicly because I feel like it's very stigmatized disease. But it's definitely something that needs to be understood more. I think I have an understanding of my immune system at this point and understand that standing of my body's weaknesses, I still get really caught off guard very easily where I'm like, Whoa, we're slipping downhill really fast right now.

Carrie:

Like everything has got to stop and I still have to manage that. And I wouldn't say I have Lyme now. I have, you know, sort of the, the end result of having a body that's been attacked by a bug. So yeah, I spent a year and a half and with IV therapy, like traveling the country, like literally like my boyfriend at the time would just put me on a plane and said, go see this doctor. Okay, come home and rest. Like, okay, go do this treatment. Like it was, it was insanity. And then at times where he was like, I can't take care of her and go to my parents' house. And I was studying integrative nutrition at the time and I was like, okay, my goal is to work for an integrative nutrition company so that I can help change medicine because if I've had this disease they think I had it for like a long time.

Carrie:

I've had this disease for so long that's gone like completely under the radar, like not notice. And I've had so many medical crisises that have made my career completely unsustainable. Like what's going on here? So I had a great time working for a metagenics integrated therapeutics teaching doctors lifestyle medicine and how to manage chronic diseases and really do, you know, medicinal therapy, nutritional therapy. It was incredible and it was not in alignment with my body again. And this was like, I went from like the place of like, I have a mission and a vision and a dream. It's so great to have a dream. It's amazing, but there are so many other parts to having a dream that you have to bring into alignment with your own physical reality of like what your body has shown you over time, what you've witnessed from your body over time. And when you can see the patterns of your body and know what's sustainable and what's not sustainable, everything comes down to energy. My whole entire life is about energy management at this point.

Liz:

So then when do you feel that you had, because I agree with you 100% obviously, because you know, we're kind of on the same path here, right? So when do you think that you had that Aha moment about understanding that it was energy and like how you had to, you know, well, I don't want to say manage, but you know, how did you know that, okay, I have to do, I have to be able to do what I want to do. Right. But I have to maintain an honor myself. Like the way that, that I'm at

Carrie:

It was like my hysterectomy. It was completely when I had an emergent hysterectomy, I was hemorrhaging out and they were like, you're going to die unless we removed this organ from you now. And when I came out of that, they said to me, you will have more energy because you've been carrying around a dead organ for so long.

Carrie:

There was nothing here to have. Like I'd already had 10 or nine surgeries on it before. So it had already been caught her eyes and all the stuff and cut into and all lasered in so, so many times. So not like life was ever going to be able to grow in there. But when I came out of that, I did a really like intensive creativity research. Like I was like, I was an artist as a child. My mom's an interior designer. We learn how to tactile. I lily like get into the world, right? Like everything is about shape and space and color and texture and how do things work together. And I live in a very neutral world now. It's really funny. Like I don't need too much stuff, just keep it really plain and natural and really love it.

Carrie:

But I like I learned, I was like, there, there's an artist in me deep, deep, deep down inside this one dying to come out. And ever since my back surgery, right. It was literally like a 20 year cycle of 13 surgeries. I hadn't been openly, freely, non-judgmentally creative. I hadn't gotten like the fulfillment of creativity. Okay. In 20 years. And so, you know, I'd worked on films, I had done every job you could do on set. Like I could run circles around, I could burn energy like no other, but I couldn't like resurgence myself. Like, I couldn't like, like build inner resources. So when I learned that like creativity was a great outpouring, but I needed to have like some inner balance of a spiritual world that fed me. That's where I started to see, what was right in front of me, what people are asking for from me.

Carrie:

I'm just looking at like life as a very blank canvas of like, okay, I'm going to put the question out there, like, what do you want from me today? And what showed up was women asking me to get them dressed. Asking them, yeah. Asking me to take them through their photo shoot and produce our photo shoot for them. And I was like, sure, no problem. Like, I can do that with my eyes close. Like seriously. Like that's super easy. And they'd be like, for you? Yeah, for me. And they'd be like, how do you do this? I'm like, how do you not do this? Like this is, I'd be like, okay, we're taking this down. So that's not there. Like, but that's in my house. I'm like, I don't care. It's gonna ruin the shot.

Carrie:

And then, you know, like six months later I'm like, okay, I took those parts down there a little bit too busy, but I just got, I think I got really lucky. I asked, like I really, really asked for people to come together for me. I had gone to B school the year that I, had my hysterectomy. So in vehicle is in February, I had the hysterectomy in or March and then in September I had the hysterectomy. So I had worked on building a coaching business online. I was like, Oh, I'm just going to have a coaching business. Like it'll be super cool. But I was still in the push phase. Like I was push, push, push, push, push. And I literally like, I was on the end of week one of my first launch. Like I had done Beta for like the whole time of B school and I was like, Oh hey, I'm doing it.

Carrie:

Like, I'm going back, I'm doing it. And I was on my cycle, right? And so, and it was Friday and I was like, oh, I feel like really tired. And then I started bleeding heavier and then I went to this fair with my girlfriends and we had to stop every 15 minutes. I was like, oh my God, this is a problem. And then by the time we had gotten to the fair, which was an hour and a half away, I've gone through all my supplies for the day and I had to ask a woman for supplies and she's like, here I have a diaper. So I wear a diaper. The last day that I had my uterus and I was like pushing my way through, right? I'm going to get through this. I even like went out to dinner and I was like going to the bathroom like every 15 minutes.

Carrie:

I woke up at three in the morning and I messaged my mom. I'm like, I think I have a problem. Like I think this is a real big problem this time because this bleeding cycle wasn't new. I had already been getting IV, iron for like years because I was bleeding so much. So the bleeding wasn't, but that this one was just the, like the outpouring was a little bit more and so it was, I knew that it was out of control and that I had lost so much blood that I was in, in a danger zone. I couldn't walk down the stairs. Yeah. So I lost my train of thought though because we were, I was going somewhere that, oh, the pushing to the B school to the moment. Okay. So these women, like I just, I wanted, I was tired of being online and I needed connection.

Carrie:

Like I needed people that I could touch and like be like, Hey, you with me on this? Like, that's just not easy, Maria for that makes it look really easy and good. Oh, I love her. I think she's amazing, but like her spirit is fierce and like, I can get caught up in the dilution. Like it's easy, but it's, it's work. It's a lot of work and it's, it takes a lot of inner resources. And I was sick. Like I was really sick and I was like, this is, it's out of balance. And so by having a circle of women that I could gather with and we still meet every month, it's been over four years now. Yeah, I call in now that I'm here in Spain and I mean we've grown our businesses to are seven figure earners I think once on our way.

Carrie:

Like it's, it's pretty insane. They, we just come practical, right? We just talked about soul stuff. We talked about needs, we talk about gaps in our businesses, desires. We're all firm believers in divine feminine and really bringing the power of femininity back and or rebirthing it really into our world and through just like a really magical journey. I was then all of a sudden working on set again and doing long hours and had a regular magazine Gig and I was doing like video shoots and like for Hay House and all of a sudden I was like, oh, like I was back there and I was like, well, this can't be happening now. And I would literally like do a shoot, take a week to recover. I'm like, this is not sustainable. And so I have a come to Jesus moment.

Carrie:

And I was like, okay, like my goal was to be online, like how do we do this? And then I started doing calls with women and discovery calls and I just started collecting data and I started infusing my creativity with my spirituality and my coaching training and my wellness background and my film background and my marketing and sales. And I was like, oh, we have a thing here. Like we have a thing. And it's completely served me through and through and through and through even to step into my own life, right. That my work has helped me step deeper into my purpose and deeper into my own, like source of my own identity and being in alignment with.

Liz:

Yes. And I like how you said identity because I'm really big on that one. It is and it's it and, and we, okay. So, so, all right. Yeah, I feel so. I love it. So let's have a little discussion on this one. I feel that, you know, we, I think we have an authentic identity, right? I feel that sometimes we put on an identity.

Carrie:

There's sub personas.

Liz:

Yeah. Okay. So, okay. That's a great way of saying it. Yeah. So for me, so I'll, I'll give you my example. So for me, um, I was a scientist. It's who I am. It's my identity. I'm a scientist, right? So I had, because I have all these degrees, right? I've all these expensive papers on my wall that say I'm a scientist. And so when I, when I was truly though and in alignment with what I am, which is helping women, empowering women, like all of that, right. And that's the flow. But yet my ego is telling me no, no, no, no, no. You don't have papers to say that you have papers to say you're a scientist. Is that, is that, do you agree with that? I see, like you said, some personas.

Carrie:

So I think, okay. I agree that that gets in the way. Right? I agree that that can stop people from feeling credible. But if we resource ourselves back to our own energy and disregard what the world has told us about ourselves, right. I created something called a style archetype system. So much like Venus Warrior, right? Like there are ways that we identify and embody ourselves and depending on where we are in the spectrum of where we want to go and where, how resolved we are with our core story. There is a, there is a balancing of scales of saying like, oh I can go so far with this identity.

Carrie:

This feels good. So I'll give you a specific example to me. My style archetype for the past couple of years has been a Boho warrior for me. I have used my warrior to get through everything. I mean I've been like, okay I can do it. Like yeah I'm out there but it's not really serving me now. Right? Cause I'm, I'm finding that other side of ease, which is a new space for me to be in. Cause I'm really into like the New Yorker, just go get it. Like just go after it and what I didn't realize is that I have an aesthetic appeal to Bohemian style, right? And to the warrior style. Like I definitely have an aesthetic appeal or I'm like Ooh, this is juicy to me. My body type, like how my body is shaped because I'm large, best breasted, it doesn't, the Bohemian style doesn't totally like look the best on me but I can, I've learned to use like aspects of that to adorn my body. So I know how to take certain like texture along a, you know, a v neck instead of using like a whole big draping, Roberto Roller Rabbit, you know, beach cover ups, like slowly thing.

Carrie:

But what I found was when I really got into the identity of Bohemian, which is really your inner nomad I had in my health journey, I had left that girl behind. Now prior to sort of getting into college and going through that process, I had gone a nomad at the world. I lived in Scotland and Egypt and an in a Bedouin village. And Israel. And like I just, I just like traveled, right? And I was, and I traveled across America and rock climb for a year and then like stopped in New Mexico to learn philosophies and like came back to Maine. And then I, you know, I just was a such a free spirit and I was like, whoa. Yeah. And, and like following my intuition and my instinct and then that moment died for me when I got into like, you must go to college, like follow the path, which I understand like the value of a degree, but like, did I really need a film production degree?

Carrie:

Like Ooh, that's right. Another time. So there was, and I was also raised internationally, so there's this large part of me that has like this ideation spirit of like internationals better or like, it feels more aligned for me. Like when I go to England, my body settles in a way that like, I can't, in America it's just, it's a fact. Like my doctor in America was like, can you go to England for a little while? Because the last time you went, like things worked out really well for you. And I was like, this is really interesting. Like there's a sense of home, is it because I spent six years formative years there? Maybe. But when I, sorry, it was in a relationship when I was like, okay, I'm this Boho warrior, but like this guy doesn't like to travel. We're not very aligned. I feel kind of bored, like dampening my spirit. I'm out like I'm out and the me too movement happened and I was like, I'm so out.

Carrie:

It was like this part of me is not healed and I cannot be with him to heal it. Yup. So I left and I was like, I went and got this beautiful apartment and signed a nine month lease and I was like, okay, we'll see what happens. And very much committed to the success of my business and it tanks, like my business really like took a big, like it gutted me just like I was too exhausting to run the way I was running it. I had a big team of eight people, I just could not manage it anymore. I was like, this is too much for me to manage and I need to simplify every thing. So I let everyone go except for one person. And I learned to master everything that I learned from all the people, the people that were doing all those jobs.

Carrie:

So I've gotten really good at being like solo preneur and, and like delegating out when there's things that I'm like, I can't do that, you know, knowing what I really can't do something. And when I, when I got invited to Spain, I was like, I was deep in trauma therapy at the time and I was like working through like, okay, like this warrior person inside me, like she's not helping the cause anymore. I need to find the definite like sense of ease in my body. And when I, it was a free trip to Spain to a pizza for two weeks. I went on a yoga retreat for a week that was 200 euros. I stayed at my friend's place and took a scooter back and forth to the countryside on this like amazing estate. And I was like, food was included.

Carrie:

Like it was in insane. It was insane. I met an Italian and a Dutch woman. We spent every day going to the beach and the afternoon laughing harder than I'd ever laughed in my entire life. And on my birthday I was doing a quantum healing and I was like, this, I need to move here. Like I the next like phase of healing in my life is to move here. And I made that commitment and I think I like burst my Boho open, whereas she was like free again. And as I've warrior through the transition, I've become more of a goddess. I've let go of like the grasping and holding on. And so now I'm in a transition of like more of like a chic goddess and, and owning that identity more and embodying that. Right? So there's a, there's an aesthetic look to it, but there's an energetic vibe that you project into the world. And when you project that clarity into the world, they understand you like no other forces there.

Liz:

Yeah, exactly. Because that's where, that's where you're at. Like everything is flowing right.

Carrie:

Your present. Yeah. You're, you're present in your vibe. So if someone's like, I'm an elegant Maven, so they need to really step into more of their femininity, but they need to own their expertise because they're maybe newer, not newer, but they haven't totally believed in their ability to say this is what I'm doing. So they also need to keep that feminine clothes. So they own a sense of elegance. And then they are, they own their expertise and as they find this balance, there's like this very refined, slow ease, grace structured back to flow sensation. And when I implement that somatic dressing method, which is part of my signature system, that method, I teach you how to apply clothing to your body to gain more resource in your energy.

Carrie:

So to modulate your energy, to say like, okay, I feel exhausted and I need to be like jam on today. Like I need to rock it today. So what does my body need to feel supported and doing that? Where do I need to release energy? How do I need to enhance some energy? Where do I need to protect some energy? And we use practical tools like real container of clothing to do that. And you own your vibe even more because you are applying practical material to your body to give you the structure, the container to keep your energy in alignment with where you need to be. Well and if you know at the very beginning of your day, cause this is like a a morning ritual, part of your day to get out the door, if you know at the very beginning of your day that you're so off base that you can't accomplish what you need to do, you have the right and the choice to make changes to your day.

Carrie:

Like, you know what? This is what I need. Go into self care, go do this, go do that. I woke up like I didn't get enough sleep last night. I went to the gym and I was like, oh I feel really tired. I took, I did Yoga Nadirah I slept afterwards and then I went to the physiotherapist and I got my whole body back on and I'm like, okay, I'm great. But like I wouldn't have been able to be like, hey, how are you? I'd been like, I am Carrie low energy.

Liz:

Right, but this, but to where you are now, so people understand is that it took time and work on yourself too. Right. Understanding. Right. This wasn't an overnight thing.

Carrie:

Are you kidding me? I'm like, what are we there yet? Cause it feels like forever. But now, so yes, it took work. It took, it took resistance. Like I was in resistance for a really long time, asked my mastermind girlfriends, they watched me sit and resistance for a really long time cause I was angry. I was angry at the shit that had happened to me. I was angry. Like the course of my life, I was angry that I was stuck. And that anger wasn't working for me anymore. So when I created the dressing method, the somatic dressing method, I was conscious that I was angry and I was releasing the anger every day. Okay. I'm starting on some moto boots and a fucking longs, flowy skirts so that I can just rock my bad ass out. And own it, but not take it out on anyone else. Not Take it out on myself just to express it very elegantly with a little bit of edge. You know, Kate, my style

Liz:

This is awesome. Like I would never have thought that that's what this is. Like what you, you're, you're okay. That's so cool.

Carrie:

It's so fun. Like it's fun. It makes every day an adventure. Cause you're like, whoa. Like how am I feeling today? Okay. What, how am I going to adorn myself today? Like what's going to show up? So there's no, like everyone has a bio individual matrix, right? Just like bio individual health. We have a unique identity inside our body and that our systems respond to different things differently. By individuality. Same thing with style, right? We have the Bobby shape, we have our energy, we have our identity, we need to work with all of those systems to pull it together. Oh. And guess what? Then we have the weather and the things that we got to do and the places to be socially appropriate, right?

Carrie:

Like how do we do that? You know, that's a lot to think of. Putting on a shirt that's a lot so I, I had to like dial it all back so that it became intuitively manageable and self-serving. Because who wants to feel like stinky and sweaty and a poly shirt when you're on like a hundred degree day and you're like sweating buckets, like, yeah. I just, I literally just got a call from a client, she was like, I wore the wrong thing today. My shirt was at the dry cleaner and I was like, okay. So it's springtime, it's a little confusing. It's all about layers. She's like, my underlayers don't fit right. And my over layers and Dah, Dah, Dah. And I was like, okay, so what would you have worn? She's like, it's dry clean. I'm like, it's okay. The world will not end. You'll feel a little uncomfortable today, tomorrow. Try it again.

Liz:

Yeah, exactly right. Oh that's awesome. So, that, can you explain a little bit about your program? So, so we understand like what it is and what is involved?

Carrie:

Absolutely. So it's called create your soul style and it's a four part system. We go through the body image breakthrough. So really getting an understanding of the underlying story of who you are, what's blocking you. And that becomes like a lot of like how we get through cause it becomes mindset, right? I want to know like where in your mind are you stopping yourself from being successful? Most of my clients are online entrepreneurs, or have a business that they're trying to get to the next level with. So we're always needing to be more visible. And unfortunately sometimes when we're visible we get vulnerable and then all of a sudden we go back down, slide down the scale.

Carrie:

So the body image breaks or really helps us get present with that locket. And then we go into claiming the identity and that's like your alter ego. So the style archetype, you can rest your hot one day on that and say like, oh no, I'm a Boho warrior. Like oh I'm an elegant rebel or right, you can like rest your hat and say no like they got that today cause I feel a little tired like I that identity can rock it for me today. Or like I'm just going to go out rock club today. Like I got it. So it gives you an aesthetic map but it's also built on your desires and your level of attraction, right? So you guide that. I'm not going to say like, oh you can't wear this, you can't do that. I'll give you some guidance and like down the path, right?

Carrie:

With tools and resources. And then we go into the somatic dressing. So that's really learning how to apply clothing to your body from your own closet so you don't have to go out buy tons of new clothes. Right. We use the resources that you already have to learn how to use clothing to modulate your energy. And then I just teach the same level style and that's like knowing to have what foundation to have the basics that you would get in any style course, right? Like any typical style course that you would get, you know, having your, your foundation, how to use colors, all the little basics things that I believe in timeless style. Right. I think that it's, you know, we have been caught in a system of trends and commercialism that is exhausting and it's too hard to keep up with and I have no interest in keeping up with it, but I'll teach you how to find like the best quality and value and build a good image off of that.

Carrie:

Yeah. And so a lot of my clients will have, it's a group program or a group experience and six months long it's super fun and weekly calls. So it's like, it's deep and we really use the law of attraction to project yourself into that next realm of identity that you want to strive for. We're not going to go so far away that you're going to tumble down a hill. And like, like I said in the beginning where we slept so far down, but I'm going to help you make each little steps so that you can get to that, that next level. And a lot of my clients are, you know, doing photo shoots or getting ready for their next level of visibility, or they're rebranding and they're saying like, okay, I need to take a look at my, how I'm approaching my marketplace.

Carrie:

So there's always, I'm looking at who you're serving because I really believe that you need to speak clearly to your core audience and are, I'll say they won't hear you. Yeah. It's really, it's like so much fun. Yeah.

Liz:

Yeah. You're like, you're in your zone of excellence. Like that's why float. Right. And it's like, That's awesome

Carrie:

Oh my God, it took me a lot of work to get here though. Like for sure. But I didn't give up. That's the thing I, that that's like the savings races. I had a lot of walls, but I didn't give up. And I constantly look for people to support me along the way. Right? Like I needed sounding boards. I needed people to say like, no, you made this decision. You can keep going with it. Stop second guessing yourself.

Liz:

Yes, absolutely. And that's, that's definitely why people say, you know, who were the five people that you're around the most? Right. And who is in your circle because you have like, you don't want to be the top person in your circle because you won't learn and grow, right? But you also have to have the same like minded people in your circle because they're going to pull you up. They're not going to, you know what I mean? They're not going to pull you down. Oh, that's so great. Is there anything that you wanted to share that maybe I didn't touch upon that we talked about?

Carrie:

Yeah, I'm starting a podcast called getting dressed with Carrie Montgomery. So, and it's going to be soulful conversations with women about how they bring their power and embody themselves in the world. So I'm a super excited. It has not launched yet, but it'll launch around mid June. Oh you have to. Okay. That's awesome. You'll have to keep us posted cause I would love to support that. That's awesome. Great. Thank you. So absolutely. I love talking. So it's like, okay, let's just talk. Why not, right? I'm with you. Hello.

Liz:

So how then, all right, so how can people find out more about you? Where can we find you? What's, what's up with that?

Carrie:

My websites carry montgomery.com so you can pop over there and learn a little bit more about me. You can follow me on Instagram at style by Monty and on Facebook. Carrie Montgomery. That's all my juices. And then I have a free Facebook group, so getting dressed with Carrie Montgomery too so you can pop in there. And we do, I sold style spotlights and I bring people, women in there. We just relaunched it cause I had another Facebook group. So I'm super excited to start that. Can it all? Enrolling.

Liz:

I will be part of that. So great. Except my request. I'm so for anyone that is listening, I am going to put all of those links in the show notes so everything will be there, so you can just go right down to the description. You can click on it and you can get right in there right away. Carrie, thank you so much,

Carrie:

Liz, Thank you so much for such an honor.

Liz:

This was awesome. It was way exceeded my expectations completely because it was awesome.

Carrie:

Yeah, it's so fun. I know. I can't wait to have more conversations. I think we have a lot more to talk about back.

Liz:

Yeah, absolutely. Thank you so much.

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